The Painful World

For us, humans there is no such thing as unforgivable. Although in the New Testament Jesus has mentioned one thing for which God never forgives: if anyone makes fun of the manifestations of the Holy Spirit. But we are not God... We should forgive everything. Even up to seventy times seven for the very same thing.

If somebody says: it is an unpardonable thing, do not be enticed by it. In most cases the person who says so thinks subconsciously himself higher than God or let's put it this way: he is ruled by a rebellious spirit. There is no such thing as unforgivable. We are obliged to pardon to each other no matter what he or she did to us. It is one of the most important spiritual law ever.

If you are perpetually resentful, this state of mind sooner or later undermines your health in a direct or indirect way and keeps you and your offenders in bondages. Besides you poison the people's life around you causing them tremendous sufferings. God intends to avoid all of these.

Think about it this way. Unforgiveness is like an invisible causative agent which would literally blasts your immune system and you become unprotected from many diseases. We can not underestimate the harmful effects of unforgiveness to our health. It is like AIDS, the plague. It alarms your inner body, organism, hormone system and keeps the level of stress hormones permanently high which effects your immune system unfavourably.

There is no proven direct connection between certain disease and unforgiveness but if we indulge resentment we could open the door even to a terminal illness.

So how someone could forgive a seemingly unforgivable offense? The first and arduous step is to become determined to do so. You should deliberately want to forgive. It is the key step toward forgiveness. Sometimes you nurse for months, even years that intent until it ripens. But do not give up even when you get totally weary to do so. Say loudly again and again: I want to forgive him or her no matter what. And you get closer to the awesome moment when you sense that wish springs up from the bottom of your heart and it is not just a verbal practice anymore. The hard part is over. You have tuned your mind to forgiveness, and this new setting will tune your whole attitude toward the unconditional forgiveness. Now you can relax, it works just like that. Let your renewed spirit conquer your emotions and manifest itself in a new attitude.

After that do whatever is necessary to get your freedom back. So many great books are available, read and apply the truth. In some cases we might need councelling, don't be embarassed to share your battle, do whatever is needed. But be aware success without God is impossible. He is the One, who plants the desire in your heart to forgive, which sometimes is unquenchable. This planted seed in you then works well but calls for an established and close relationship with the Lord. Without Him you are not able to forgive completely, with Him you can not stay in the trap of unforgiveness.

The roots of unforgiveness sometimes are so deep it manifests in anger and hatred even you do not know the reason of them. Yes, some kind of weltschmertz. It is an evil feeling toward almost everything and everybody. Get rid of it! Surrender your life to the Lord and get on the journey which will take you to the complete healing.

Finally here is a practical advice.

How can one tell: I made the first step, I am ready to forgive surely. Isn't just a feeling without determination?

Picture your offender or the situation for a moment, then remember the picture flashed into your mind.

Is this person impressed on you even a bit? A smile on his face or a kind look? Was he or she in dark, or a little beam scanned the head or the body? Did you feel any joy or peace seeing the picture? If you answered yes to any of these questions above, you are on the way to forgiveness. You complied with the first and hardest task of the mightiest spiritual process induced by God between humans.