The Painful World

When was the last clip you were really and truly happy? Can't retrieve such as a time? Or is it that you never ever felt that manner in your full life?

It is a commonly known fact that a batch of people across the human race are unhappy. In fact a bulk of people these years is unhappy. If we begin penning down the grounds for sadness in the world, even all the document 1 can happen in this human race will fall short.

People make not happen true happiness, nor make they swell with felicity because they always remain in the clasp of the psychotic beliefs they harbour about happiness. They maintain enlisting the things that they believe might take them to absolute felicity and pass clip and money only to recognize much future that it have finally led them nowhere.

Some of the common psychotic beliefs that people associate to felicity are:

1. You can be happy when you are with someone.

Some people do a particular individual or a particular friend the centre of their lives. And when these particular people travel forth or go away, you begin feeling anchorless and unhappy.

What we necessitate to recognize is that felicity is not something that tin be establish outside. One makes not necessitate to be dependent on others for their happiness. Happiness is establish inside a person. If that person, on whom you are basing your happiness, deceases or travels away, your felicity too will decease and tally away with them.

You can swell with felicity with anyone at anytime of the day, any day. You just necessitate to be content with what you have, and also believe in your capableness and your ability to go happy without anyone else's help.

2. You necessitate to be lucky in order to be happy.

You will happen many people around you who are very fortunate. However, we often bury that your fortune can run out any clip and when one's luck runs out, even one's following desert one. So if you depend on your fortune in such as a situation, you would be distraught.

Luck is fleeting but felicity can be brought alive from within you, whenever you want. You only necessitate to be appreciative of all that you have. This grasp and gratitude makes not come up naturally when you are suffering, so you might necessitate to develop yourself.

The route of life is jarring and have its share of potholes. So one should not anticipate a smooth main road at all modern times and must be prepared for the clip when your good luck comeuppance you. Despite all hardships, one must go on having a positive attitude.

3. Having tons of money can take us to happiness.

Money bes happiness. This equation is the top psychotic belief most people have got about the conception of happiness. Everyone desires money as they believe that money is the lone thing that tin do them happy. So these years you happen many people working themselves into an early grave.

But the richest of the rich volition vouch for the fact that money cannot bargain happiness. In fact since you begin depending on money so much, the more than than money you have, the more jobs you will face.

Once all your money is pent, it is foolish to believe that people around you will act with you in the same manner. This volition ultimately do you experience depressed and unhappy.

Happiness is inside us. We can convey forth this felicity by shining our interior ego and showing this alteration and our felicity to everyone.

When somebody ask you this question, what will be your answer? Can you answer right away? Or you have to think for a few seconds before you can answer? Others will need a lifetime to answer this.

One of the reasons why when a person being asked this question think before answering is because he/she is not sure if he/she is happy with his/her life now. He/She might need to think and balance things up to come up with the correct answer. But all should learn how to get the answer. All of us should keep in mind that happiness is not just being happy with the things we have now or how much money we saved in the last few years but what we have accomplished. Happiness comes after contentment. And we should first need to find this contentment before we can find happiness.

Having so much problems and so much pain in life shouldn't stop us from saying: "I am happy." We have to find a way to make ourselves be able to say this short but meaningful statement. We need to walk on the road that leads to contentment so we can find happiness which is next to it. Very easy to say but it's very hard to be done.

In life, we will always find someone who can make us laugh. He/She might not be the one who will make us happy for the rest of our lives but we should treasure and take good care of this someone who comes along the way. As he/she might not be there in the end but he/she is with us to help us along the way.

In the next few weeks, I'll be submitting some more articles on how to make ourselves be contented and happy afterwards, not just looking happy but feeling happy inside out.

Doris Helge, Ph. D. is author of many books, including, "Joy on the Job" and "Transforming Pain Into Power," now published in four languages. After a decade of research regarding employee morale and motivation issues and providing training in organizations ranging from Microsoft to Vanderbilt University, Dr. Helge, "The Joy on the Job Coach," has became the #1 authority on happiness at work.

"Joy on the Job" is The Bible of Happiness at Work. Although the book is fun to read, I couldn't find any filler or fluff in this comprehensive work. The book is packed with hundreds of proven, easy-to-implement strategies that create joy and fulfillment at work. Material was drawn from interviews with employees, managers, and entrepreneurs in 21 diverse organizations. Strategies were validated during "Joy on the Job Seminars" conducted by the author.

When the Joy on the Job strategies were evaluated, Dr. Helge's work produced significant improvements in:



* Teamwork


* Job satisfaction (whether workers were self-employed or employed by a company)


* Employee motivation (whether people were working for themselves or a company)


* Productivity


* Employee retention


* Customer service


* Leadership ability


* Employee morale (whether people were working for themselves or a company)





Over 100 user-friendly exercises in "Joy on the Job" help us integrate new knowledge and skills.

A book based on over ten years of research could be dry, right? Not "Joy on the Job!" It's filled with positive surprises. The book is written in a warm, conversational style and the content and exercises are so useful that the book definitely maintains your interest. The answer to "What's in it for me?" is simple -- happiness at work -- so people I talk to read the book over and over. It is their reference book regarding happiness at work.

For the HR manager or other serious researcher, "Joy on the Job" has a complete appendix with an extensive index. I was amazed that even the References and Notes Section of "Joy on the Job" is interesting to read.

I enjoyed reviewing this book because I agree with Dr. Helge that everyone deserves to enjoy their work as much as a fun vacation. People I've recommended the book to have been delighted by how easy it is to improve their lives at work. HR managers, entrepreneurs, team members, and employees appreciate the no-cost strategies that have been proven to produce positive change.

One of the next best steps on Planet Earth will be to create work settings in which people have so much fun that work becomes like play. This book and Dr. Helge's seminars are a giant step toward that goal.